I am now married and I personally believe that it is not good for someone to be alone. I believe in getting married and growing old with a spouse. But I accept that people remain single for many reasons, and for private justification. Some remain single for religious reason and emotional reason (personal trauma, unwillingness to have children, etc.), and others remain single because they are choosy. I think people are entitled to be choosy when it comes to selecting a partner for life.
Many times society judges the readiness of marriage based on one's age, career stability, the need to continue the family line, and so on, and so forth. It is likely that a person is more stable, character and financial-wise, as he gets older. When one has been independent enough and is okay to have himself as a company, it will be harder to get into a relationship.
These two questions might stay at the back of one's head:
1. How can I handle the differencesI have with my future partner? I'm good by myself. Why would I waste my time and energy trying to bridge the differences we have? If the love and commitment are not enough, there will be break-up.
2. How can I be certain that I will end up marrying her? Why would I be emotionally and physically invested in that person, if at the end of the day we decide not to get married? It will feel like, again, a waste of time and energy.
Some single people I'm close with deal with these conflicting thoughts all the time. They don't want to be alone for the rest of their lives, but they're reluctant to take that leap of faith. Eventually they just shut off themselves and stop looking, but they never stop hoping and waiting!
I think it's a personal choice to be single or to be married. Even in this era, marriage is not something we take lightly. We still aim for a lifetime commitment and companionship, and I can understand why my friends are cautious when getting into a relationship, that might eventually lead to marriage.
The question that always breaks my heart whenever I hear it is 'Will I ever find someone?'. I will solemnly answer him/her, "I do not know, but I hope you will. Don't lose your faith. Don't listen to people who keep asking the same question. The only person you need to answer to is yourself."
