      So I was at a lovely, quiet park on a mall the other day, when this mom showed up with a screaming, upset, probably three-year-old girl. She was yelling and crying about something I don't know, and she was not stopping. A few minutes later, another mom showed up with her son. Apparently he knew the screaming child from preschool or something, because he asked her, "Hey, Mandy! What's wrong?"
      And she told him what was wrong.
      Imagine they were adults, and the crying girl might have seen her coworker show up. She might quickly tried to act like everything was fine, and her friend would have pretended he didn't see her tearing up and nothing was wrong.
      In psychology, they said there are three requirements to making a new friend:
- Proximity
- Repeated, unplanned interactions, like at school or church
- A setting that allows or encourages people to open up and confide in each other
Kids have wilder emotions than adults and less able or motivated to control them. They put less effort to get upset for hours and making friendship. Most children or young people are living in the moment. They don't have odor to talk first like adults. They're not even shy of bawling their eyes out in public. Mostly, children are not shy or have suspicions like adults do.Â
They know no racism and stereotypes. This is happening worldwide, especially where racism is strong, and starting not so long ago -- or at least what I know.
In a survey by AARP of 3000+ adults aged 35 or older, 1 in 5 reported being lonely.
As we grow older, we need less and less from people, because we are growing more independent. We lose interest of people with different interest with us. Adults want something like benefits from friendship -- is my friend a good listener? Is my friend can help me with my work? Will he/she being disadvantageous for me? While children just want someone to play with.
That is why children feel more free to communicate to other people. So children appear to make friends so easily than adults do. But, try to put negative thoughts aside and you can make friends like children.
My mom said, "Being sincere and confident goes along way into making friends!"
Try to talk to strangers "out of the blue" about non-sense in an everyday setting. You'd be surprised at how often you can get into long conversations with complete strangers if you're sincere and confident. You can really get into deep, meaningful conversations that way, the ones that they might only tell their really close friends. My mom did a great job doing that. So, adults can build friendship as fast as or faster than children.
